Life of a youth pastor .

A different perspective.

November 6, 2014 by Chris Parker Leave a Comment

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I know it’s bad writing to give it all away in the first few sentences, but I care this much for you, so I’m going to give you the nitty gritty up front. You need to look at things differently. We are all guilty of a biased view of most situations and that is ok, God gave you a perception and the free will to feel and observe differently than those around you. You as a student pastor may be feeling opposition, lack of support or feel like your entire staff or volunteers just aren’t seeing what you see. Take moment to look at your situation or problem from their point of view. Look at it through the lens of your senior pastor, your boss, your students, your volunteers, your parents, etc. This can greatly impact the way you lead through something or react to others during confrontation.

One of my jobs while being in college was wedding photographer on the weekends. Bumping up against other photographers I realized quickly that the art is totally subjective. A great angle to take a photo for one photographer, may be seen differently by another photographer. Art is subjective, one artist may love this style while another artist doesn’t care for it or think it can be done better. The way we run our programs, retreats, use of budgets, recruiting and developing of leaders is not too different. There are 200 different ways to do programs, 300 ways to develop leaders and a million ways you can shift your budget to fit your ministry goals and desired outcomes.

When someone critiques what you are doing or you are feeling big opposition, do yourself and the other party a favor. Look at things from their perspective. This should help give you a broader perspective so that you can make a better decision for yourself and your ministry.

Filed Under: Leadership, Student Ministry, Uncategorized Tagged With: leadership, leading, perspective, student ministry, stumin, youth pastor

Does failure define a leader?

October 21, 2014 by Chris Parker Leave a Comment

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A leader should be measured not only by successes but also by how quickly he or she can recover from failure. Great leaders are born out of failure. They’ve messed up, made a wrong decision, or perhaps tanked an entire industry. The defining moment will come 5 minutes after the realization of that failure. Will they sit and sulk? No. A leader will admit the fault, attack the problem and come out on the other side with a solution and move on to encounter another day of leading.

I’ve seen a variety of professional and personal failures that end up defining a leader for the worst, making them sound like “they were a leader once upon a time.” On the contrary, I’ve seen dozens of amazing leaders share their professional and personal failures and how they bounced back from them with the support of God, family and friends.

Don’t let the failure define you, overcome it with this truth from God’s word:

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

Galatians 6:9

Filed Under: Leadership, Student Ministry Tagged With: church, failure, give up, leadership, student ministry, stumin, youth pastor

Take a brain dump!

October 15, 2014 by Chris Parker 1 Comment

 

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Vocational ministry can be quite overwhelming at times, especially on top of family responsibilities and scheduling. This exercise is quite relieving, at least it was for me. I can’t promise it will make everything go away but perhaps make life a bit more enjoyable because you’re organized and your mind will be a little less… constipated.

Today amidst a busy schedule and to-dos that seemed to keep piling up I tried my hardest to collect and rationalize all my thoughts…but simply couldn’t, there was too much on my mind. What happened next was extremely satisfying. I took a brain dump.

  • Grab a stack of sticky notes and a pen.

  • Write down the first thing on your mind.

  • Take the next sticky note and write the next thing. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

  • Organize all sticky notes into 3 categories – work, home, personal.

  • Rank the sticky notes in each category and assign calendar due dates for each one.

When it was all said and done my brain had more than it could handle! I ended up with 62 post it notes in a matter of 15 minutes. Give it try!

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(My brain dump.)

 

Filed Under: Leadership, Student Ministry Tagged With: brain dump, calendar, challenge, leadership, organization, sticky notes, student pastor, stumin, youthpastor

All is NOT lost.

September 18, 2014 by Chris Parker Leave a Comment

allislostWith me growing up around sailboats and loving survival skills, I think Robert Redford did an excellent job with All is Lost. Composed of just a few sentences and hardly any soundtrack, this very real, jaw dropping thriller will make you feel isolated and hopeless through it all.

There are too many times in student ministry we (youth pastors) feel this way about our ministry — isolated — hopeless.  If it weren’t already hard enough to sail a boat across the Indian Ocean, the guy just happens to hit a shipping container in the middle of nowhere! With what seems the already impossible task of running a stellar weekend program, having every leader/volunteer slot filled and ensuring every visiting student returns, the ominous adversary that is determined to sink your ministry comes unfairly unexpected.

Isolation and hopelessness come in all shapes and sizes, whether it be an ignorant staff member stirring up rumors about you, an irate parent disagreeing with your philosophy of ministry or perhaps budget cuts so bad you can’t spend a penny.  You need to hold fast and weather the storm to develop perseverance in yourself and for the sake of your ministry. There’s no denying it, you will hit one storm after another, especially in student ministry. With each storm weathered comes a victory and even victories can be disguised as hard lessons learned, all is not lost. Through it all you will become a stronger leader and a better youth pastor for your ministry and your church.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. – James

If you want to watch the movie “All is Lost”. Get it here.

 

 

Filed Under: Student Ministry Tagged With: hope, isolation, james, leadership, lost, student ministry, stumin, Youth Ministry, youth pastor

Insane deal for you! Go get it.

August 19, 2014 by Chris Parker Leave a Comment

DealsI think I own almost every book that Orange has put out, and they just keep getting better. These are some of the best reads for student and children’s ministry. You won’t be disappointed to add some of their hot-off-the-press books to your library. Buy some for you, buy some for a friend, read and discuss with your church staff.

Orange Books is sponsoring a week of special deals. This week only until August 22, you can get five different special offers on select Orange Books.

When you purchase one of the five different “Deals,” you will receive $50–$100 of bonus content!

Plus, if you post the Deals (using the hasthtag #OrangeBooks), you will be entered to win five different Prizes (no purchase necessary). You can get all the details at Orange Books.

Go get that deal! #OrangeBooks

Filed Under: Leadership, Student Ministry, Uncategorized Tagged With: Orange, OrangeBooks, StudentMinistry, StudentPastor, stumin, thinkorange

Stop doing it all!

July 16, 2014 by Chris Parker Leave a Comment

A student ministry is not a student ministry until students start doing the ministry.

It was this philosophy of ministry that my youth pastor had. When he gave away leadership to me, I inherited numerous tasks and responsibilities. Through developmental leadership over the years I now find myself in the place of needing to give my leadership away to others.

What is holding back your ministry from growing deeper spiritually, growing bigger in numbers and overall richer in leadership? It’s probably your lack of empowering others, giving away responsibilities and allowing students to do the ministry that they are capable of doing. When a student has that “Aha!” moment and realizes that they are just as capable to minister to others like the youth pastor, they begin to look at their student ministry through a different lens. The student begins to own the ministry and operate not merely as an attender but as a contributor.

How do you empower your students?

Look over your weekly responsibilities, find tasks you can give to your students so that they have the opportunity to step up and do the ministry they are capable of doing.

Filed Under: Leadership, Student Ministry Tagged With: Church Planting, leadership, student ministry, student pastor, stumin, youth group

Kearning is very important. More about logo design.

May 29, 2014 by Chris Parker Leave a Comment

 

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If  you were to speak with anyone that knows me pretty well, they would probably tell you that I strive for excellence and am very particular about how things look, almost to the point of annoyance. Currently I have a design contest running for a NextGen logo. With hundreds of designs being submitted, I am sometimes shocked and even taken back to see what some people would submit. At the very least, let’s get the kearning right. So, what is kearning? I’m so glad you asked and yes it is very important with any design. It’s a fancy word for appropriate spacing.

Did you know GOOGLE changed it’s logo this past weekend, and you didn’t even notice? Not until now.

When you are branding or coming up with a new logo get all the feedback that you can. Email it out, print it and hang it up in your program/office space, ask people both inside and outside the church to vote on a few different options.

Filed Under: Church Planting, Technology Tagged With: branding, church, creating, kearning, logo, logo design, student ministry, stumin

Your sign to get a new sign.

April 29, 2014 by Chris Parker Leave a Comment

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If it’s not simple.
If it’s not short.
If it’s not synchronized.

SIMPLE – If you are running a program or ministry project that requires signs, directions, or logos, you want people to read it and read it correctly, right? So keep it simple, make sure it’s legible and not too crazy with unnecessary fluff. Remember, simple is clean, clean is attractive.

SHORT – I just finished visiting a church and walked through a 12,000 sq. ft. space of a church lobby. There was only ONE word on the giant wall as people left the auditorium. “CONNECTIONS” Simply one word says it all. There is not a question in anyone’s mind about where to go to get further connected to what is going on in that church. The more words, artwork, phrases, pictures, random, useless, meaningless…well you get the idea, people stop reading or lose interest. Keep it short. Whatever you desire to have the most attention in your space dial it down to one or two words.

SYNCHRONIZED – You might have the coolest sign ever, but if it doesn’t match anything else in the church you are sticking out like a sore thumb in a bad way. Figure out your churches style and fit into it, if you don’t like the style or the style is too outdated, sketch up some proposals and get some feedback before purchasing that big sign or multiple signs for your space.

Here is what I did with our student space at our church to communicate to the general public where students hang out on Sundays and the program times we offer.

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If you are coming from the visitor parking lot and don’t see the doors, at least the 8ft. tall word STUDENTS will give it away.

Good signage following these three rules does not cost your church an arm and a leg, it just takes some brainstorming, creativity, and agreeing on next steps. The paint on the building and vinyl work on the doors gets complimented every other week. People share how helpful the signage was in directing them. It only cost a few hundred bucks, 3 sit down meetings and roughly 4 email threads. Small investments of budget and time can make a huge difference and leave a big impression to those visiting for the first time.

Filed Under: Church Planting, Student Ministry Tagged With: artwork, branding, church, ideas, logo, paint, signage, signs, student ministry, student pastor, students, stumin, vinyl, youth pastor, youthmin

Stop what you are doing and start preparing right now.

April 17, 2014 by Chris Parker Leave a Comment

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I can’t stand something not being done with excellence. Whether it be a t-shirt design, advertisement, an event, or a church service. I hate sloppy stuff. It shows that someone didn’t care enough to put the right amount of time into the project or they cared too late in the game.

In the church world Sunday is always coming and time doesn’t seem to be slowing down for any of us to accomplish more during the week. If you are stuck in a week to week schedule (only setting sights on this coming Sunday) then you will miss the greatest potential for your leadership and your ministry. Being a church or ministry that is prepared for it’s future will determine not only how successful this coming Sunday is, but how you actually spend your time to prepare for this coming Sunday.

I sometimes fool myself to thinking I work harder or smarter under pressure. Fast approaching deadlines seem to light a fire underneath me. When I kick into hyper-speed or try to accomplish too much in a small window I can be laser focused on my big project but small details can be missed. Sure, we can accomplish the task at hand on time and say it’s done, but is it finished with excellence?

Allow extra time to complete the project. You are bound to produce a better product.

Here are a few personal examples:

  • My team starts planning for our upcoming Winter Camp 5 months out.
  • We begin discussing sites and doing pre-trips for mission trips 5 months out.
  • I try to line up guest speakers for Sundays 1 month out.
  • I have had multiple series and small group questions set for every Sunday 6 months ahead.
  • Ideally, I have my message done one week before and already looking ahead to the next one.
  • Set monthly reminders on my phone for what I should be thinking about for the next month.

Work ahead, it pays off. If you are behind, what can you stop doing and start preparing for now?

Filed Under: Church Planting, Leadership, Student Ministry Tagged With: goals, planning, project management, start, stop, student ministry, stumin

Challenge: Don’t pick up the microphone.

April 14, 2014 by Chris Parker Leave a Comment

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Last night for our high school programming was a first for me and my volunteer team. It was a regularly scheduled program for our HS students: dinner together, large group game, announcements, teaching, worship, small groups. For many it was just another night… but not for me.

On top of two middle school programs and a mission trips training, I was pretty spent. Here’s the cool part, I never picked up a microphone, clicked a button, or flipped a light switch for last night’s program. How? I empowered my leaders, volunteers and students. And it went much better than if I would have tried to pull it off on my own.

Our food coordinators had a new batch of volunteers they were training, my only part-time staff took care of the speaking part, I had a senior high school guy that’s been itching for leadership take care of announcements and the game (he did a fantastic job!), and all our small group leaders were connecting with students. What did that leave me with? The guest group! Simply sitting down and enjoying some cookie cake with two new students. It allowed me to give all my attention and energy to them. They said that they loved our hangout and were excited to get involved, taking the next step of attending a small group after Easter.

To build a team you must give away your leadership to others. You would be surprised at what could happen if you accept this challenge at one of your next programs: don’t pick up the microphone.

Try it out and let me know how it goes!

Filed Under: Leadership, Student Ministry Tagged With: church, leadership, microphone, pastor, student ministry, stumin, youth pastor

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