It’s that time of year when the youth pastor gets invited to all those graduation parties! There is usually great food, music in the air, an embarrassing slide show that may involve naked baby photos, and of course the anxious graduate who is ready to rip through all the cards to see how much money they got…I was no different. Though each party may have its own flavor one thing stays the same, the sigh of relief on the parents face, the look that says, “I can’t believe they made it…I can’t believe I made it!”
I’m sure as a parent, a youth pastor or small group leader you have found those graduation parties quite the celebration and milestone in your students life. They did it! They completed their homework assignments (almost all of them), they made some good friends, they learned how to prepare for college by writing essays and learning word processing systems and now they are ready to be sent off into the world…or are they?
While reading a book about why young people leave the church (specifically those graduating seniors) I came across a staggering statement…
“Teenagers are some of the most religiously active Americans.
American twenty-somethings are the least religiously active.”
According to the polls and interviews we as the church can easily observe that this IS the reality of church attendance and participation. Birth through high school we see active participation and attendance…it actually increases as the student approaches high school. Suddenly as if overnight, there is a nose dive in church participation, we have lost those graduates…but WHY?!
I could write all day on this subject and even present many topics that we could dissect and explore WHY older teenagers and early twenty-somethings are leaving the church…getting a driver’s license, exploring job opportunities, going “off” to college, but aren’t there churches near the college too? It seems that many not only graduate from high school never looking back but also graduate their faith! What I’m getting at is this, we the church and parents hold their hand birth-12th…walking them to their age specific rooms, ensuring that they get on the right missions trip, help pay for the perfect Christian camp, and even recruit leaders to walk alongside them every year in a small group setting. What happens next after graduation is eye-opening…nothing. Nothing happens. Where did my small group leader go? What happened to my age specific class or community? Where do I sign up for a serving opportunity or even a small group now that I’m an adult?
We must combat the dropout rate by sending out missionaries…equipping our graduates for life on their mission field wherever God places them.
I’ll be the first to confess that my church doesn’t do the greatest job in transitioning our graduates into the greater body of the church. We are aware of this problem and are searching for ways to combat the nose dive. Here are a few ideas we have moving forward…I would love to hear what others are doing!
- Provide a specific curriculum for all graduating seniors to go through their spring semester
- Find ways for small group leaders stay connected to their students throughout the college years
- Put “college ministry” under the student ministry umbrella to ensure responsibility is being taken on by a ministry within the church
- Provide a one year stent program that would allow those graduates not going to college to participate in ministry both locally and globally
The book that dives more into this discussion can be found in my library, “You Lost Me.”
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Great insight. Huge problem!
This is an immensely important post. I am forwarding it to some youth ministry leaders I know.
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Sean Chandler says
While we’ve all seen the startling statistics about drop out rates for church kids, I’ve often wondered if there is a more in-depth look at these statistics. More specifically, I want to see data on how different denominations and ministry models stack up in this regard.
I remember reading Kenda Dean’s “Almost Christian: What the Faith of Our Teenagers is Telling the American Church,” a few years back. The main premise of the book was that most churched teenagers are graduating with a worldview which more resembles moralistic therapeutic deism than Christianity. According to the book most churched teenagers believed in some kind of God who wants us to behave and who really wants to try to make us happy. As you continue to read the book you start to realize that she’s doing ministry in a denominational setting which would lend itself to students graduating with those beliefs. Her solutions to the problem read to me like a list of obvious student ministry suggestions. They were things like: teach students to read their Bibles on their own, put them in discipleship groups, and challenge them to serve.
So I wondering how much these statistics are greatly swayed by churches who demand nothing of high schoolers and teach them moralistic fluff.